A Time to Mourn and a Time to Dance.


“A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance…” Ecclesiastes‬ ‭3:4‬ ‭NIV‬‬

As a child, I spent countless hours at our family’s country house, ‘La Morita’. We would travel there every weekend with relatives and friends. The adults would play cards, dominoes or bingo in the evenings after a tasty home-made meal. All of the children would laugh often when sharing stories at the hammocks zone, play Marco Polo at the pool, ride horses in town or hike the mountains at sunrise.

I certainly miss ‘La Morita’. Those memorable times were filled with joy. I don’t remember experiencing any sadness then. Our families were united, loved one another, and were energized by fellowship, outdoor activities and mesmerized by the beauty of nature.

As I grew older, I soon realized life was not ‘picture perfect’. There are moments filled with contentment and other times filled with great distress, anger, emotional pain, grief and/or sorrow.

God promised to be right there with us thru it all – the fun, the boring, the best, the ugly and the worst times.

The Lord is our Refuge. He will never leave us nor forsake us. That is His promise.

When dad passed away, mom relocated back to our home country in South America. Since then, I have only seen her once. We don’t get to walk at the local park nor shop at ‘Sawgrass Mills’ Shopping Center anymore. It has been over two years since I last had a meal with mom at the table. I miss her voice, enthusiasm and most importantly her presence. I wish I could sit with you right now and share the details of my next trip to Florida. The truth is I may never be able to visit mom again and this is a reality I have recently come to terms with. I am in a season of loss, grief and sorrow indeed. It is time to weep, mourn and embrace the loss of mom’s current living situation, geographical distance and deteriorating health conditions.

Are you grieving at this moment, my friend? Are you reminiscing on ‘how’ your past circumstances are quite different than todays? Perhaps, you are facing an ‘unexpected’ loss and you are quite overwhelmed with the intensity and impact of the sudden challenge.

Do not be dismayed or broken-hearted, my friend.

We are in a season of grief but His mercies are new every morning. Today is filled with opportunities for us to briefly reminisce about the past then spend the rest of the time counting our blessings. We have been blessed for all the countless memories and unforgettable moments with our loved ones. They have left their ‘forever’ fingerprints on our minds, hearts and souls. My heart rejoices every time I think of mom.

Let us not dwell on the emotional distress or pain of our recent past. Let us acknowledge our loss, lament and journal our painful thoughts until we are comforted by His promises. Our Lord listens to our melancholic cries and painful thoughts and He comforts our shattered hearts over time.

We will dance once again as soon as our hearts are healed and restored.

Lord, there are so many seasons in our lives and some are difficult to process and get thru. I know we may be in the midst of a tough season. As we lament our losses, we know you are comforting us with your faithfulness, morning mercies and compassion … You hear all of our cries and wipe our tears away. You heal our brokenness and bind our deep wounds. You are our only Hope and Refuge. Turn the gaze of our hearts towards the beauty of all of your promises and fill our hearts with never-ending Hope.

Lord, I’m willing to embrace the new season in life. Spring is here! Flowers are blooming. I want to rejoice once again. Jesus, hold my hand and come with me and waltz together at the dance floor.

In Jesus’ name we boldly pray, Amen.

“You, LORD, hear the desire of the afflicted; you encourage them, and you listen to their cry,” Psalm‬ ‭10:17‬ ‭NIV

“He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.” Psalm‬ ‭147:3‬ ‭NIV

“The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble.” Psalm‬ ‭9:9‬ ‭NIV‬‬

“One thing I ask from the LORD, this only do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the LORD all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the LORD and to seek him in his temple.” Psalm‬ ‭27:4‬ ‭NIV

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Morning Coffee: 1 Peter 3:10-12

“For “Whoever desires to love life and see good days, let him keep his tongue from evil and his lips from speaking deceit; let him turn away from evil and do good; let him seek peace and pursue it. For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.””
‭‭1 Peter‬ ‭3:10-12‬ ‭ESV

James 1: 2-4

“Consider it all joy, my brethren, when you encounter various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces endurance. And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”
‭‭James‬ ‭1:2-4‬ ‭NASB‬‬

“Consider it nothing but joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you fall into various trials. Be assured that the testing of your faith [through experience] produces endurance [leading to spiritual maturity, and inner peace]. And let endurance have its perfect result and do a thorough work, so that you may be perfect and completely developed [in your faith], lacking in nothing.”
‭‭James‬ ‭1:2-4‬ ‭AMP‬‬

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The Captain of the Seas

If you missed Adriana Morales Spokane talking about coping with the stress of the corona virus pandemic from her latest book, The Captain of the Seas; on Mid-South View Point #radioshow, now available at https://bottradionetwork.com/ministry/mid-south-viewpoint/2020-08-27-sailing-uncharted-waters-august-27-2020/ or #SPOTIFY #podcast at https://open.spotify.com/episode/73qQunt3bp8h6qESdJ5Hz5?si=2KCNarGsQweYsrCvv1-kjw #AM640 #MemphisRadio #goodforthesoul #covid19 #pandemicfears #mentalhealth

The Captain of the Seas

On today’s Mid-South View Point #radioshow Adriana Morales Spokane, Licensed Clinical Psychologist talks about her latest book; The Captain of the Seas: Sailing Unchartered Waters with a Faithful God.: Journaling the Unexpected Rhythms of a Worldwide Health Crisis.

Join us THU 8/27 3PM #AM640 #FM93.7 #FM100.7

#goodforthesoul #MemphisRadio or stream during airtime at http://ic2.christiannetcast.com/wcrv-am.mp3 #covid19 #journaling #pandemicfears #mentalhealth

Decisión Finalized!

Estate Planning, long-term care insurance, and retirement planning have been on my mind since my mid-40s!

Working as a Psychologist at long-term care facilities and watching my elderly parents struggle with chronic medical conditions made me think of my own estate planning a decade ago.

I purchased long-term care insurance in my early 40s yet I haven’t revised my living will since I remarried. The struggle is real.

It is an ongoing struggle to get all of our affairs in order… who wants to think about post-retirement years when you are not even a senior as of yet?!

My dad died unexpectedly and there was no living will. It was a complete mess. Tension was high among family members. Controversial discussions were held. At the end of the day, I was hurt, betrayed, disappointed and completely stressed out and emotionally spent.

This is the reason I recently finalized my decision on moving into a life care retirement community in two years.

I want to be R-E-A-D-Y and live life abundantly, courageously and to the fullest without any reservation or concerns about leaving any troubles behind once the Lord calls me home.

I want to leave a legacy, unforgettable memories and loving relationships instead.

You are welcome to follow my new blog, livingathefarms.wordpress.com

I plan on sharing upcoming adventures.